Who hasn't experienced it? You get close to each other, you're getting it on, you're attracted to each other, the desire increases and what follows is the inevitable - the question "Do you have a condom?" and the subsequent brief interruption of the make-out session because one has to be fetched. Or not...
But sex without a condom - is that smart?
Summary
Condoms protect against pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.
Sleeping without a condom with someone you don't know or only know for a short time - risky!
Many people don't even notice a difference between using a condom or not using a condom .
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Contents
1. What does sex without a condom feel like?
Many would say that sex without a condom feels like an endorphin explosion in the body . (Better than chocolate and gelato - after a loooong time of abstinence.) Simply more real and natural, more pleasurable and arousing. As if two people were uniting. Without barriers. Somehow more intimate and somehow closer. And - to be completely honest - simply wetter . And yes, of course, when it comes to the issue of moisture, you can help yourself, but sex without a condom means bodily fluids with bodily fluids and that actually feels pretty much as wet as it sounds. After all, you feel EVERY twitch and throb .
But maybe the whole thing is just a matter of mindset.
Because sex without a condom is known to be riskier than safe sex and some people find a certain amount of risk arousing.
I'll come back to the risks of having sex without a condom in a moment.
There are actually people who feel little or no difference between sex with and without a condom. The feeling is – like every person – individual and unique.
But the fit of the condom also plays a big role. Only a well-fitting condom will be barely noticeable during sex . A condom that is too wide or too tight not only poses the risk of it slipping off, it simply feels weird.
2. When is sex without a condom safe?
There are numerous ways and methods to protect yourself against unwanted pregnancy . There are hormonal contraceptive methods, such as the pill or the hormonal coil, and natural ones, such as the copper coil or the diaphragm.
Even though the pill works for some people without any major problems, it also has many side effects and women who decide to stop taking it often don't have it easy at first. Acne, weight gain or loss, and so on.
But in general, all these methods do not protect you from one thing:
Sexually transmitted diseases aka STIs .
And I'm not just talking about HIV. Syphilis, chlamydia, gonorrhea, etc. can also be transmitted through unprotected sex.
Almost every second person becomes infected with a sexually transmitted disease AT LEAST once before the age of 25 – crazy, right?
Even if you have been in a monogamous relationship for years and neither of you has sex with anyone else, you can never be sure. There is such a thing as a yeast infection that can be transmitted to your partner without a condom.
This can be caused by incorrect wiping after a big business, antibiotics, too much hygiene (you read that right) or a generally weakened immune system. And fungal infections are no joke either, let me tell you.
Also an uninvited guest after sex without a condom - cystitis!
Yes, that's right, unprotected sex can actually increase the risk of a bladder infection (urinary tract infection). This is because bacteria that are normally found near the genital area or in the intestines can enter the urinary tract when germs enter the urethra during intercourse. This can lead to an infection of the bladder. Also absolutely not recommended!
3. Had sex without a condom?
If you have ever had unprotected sex because you just couldn't keep your hands off each other and it felt so damn good, here's what you can do now:
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Emergency contraception (morning-after pill):
If you are concerned that pregnancy is possible because you do not have the pill or IUD as a backup, the morning-after pill (emergency contraception) may be an option. This should be taken as soon as possible, ideally within 72 hours of unprotected sex. It is available over the counter in most pharmacies. The faster you act, the more effective it is. -
Visit to the gynecologist:
If you have concerns about STIs, it's a good idea to get checked out by a health care provider. They can offer you tests to make sure you haven't acquired any STIs. It's important to be honest about your sexual activity so the doctor can do the right tests. So tell them everything that's important! Don't hold back! -
Regular contraception:
Regardless of this situation, it is always a good idea to protect yourself with regular contraception to prevent unwanted pregnancies and STIs. Condoms, hormonal contraceptives such as the pill, the contraceptive patch, the contraceptive ring or intrauterine contraceptives (eg IUD) are some of the options. -
Open communication:
If you have a partner, it's important to talk openly about sexual health and contraception. This will help you plan the best course of action together and ensure both parties are protected. Ultimately, it's not fun for you or your partner if you don't feel well after having sex without a condom. Not worth it, promise! -
Self-care:
Whatever the situation, it's important to take care of your physical and emotional health. If you're feeling anxious or stressed, it's a good idea to seek support from friends, family, or a professional counselor.
