Who does not know it? You get close, you're getting it on, you feel like each other, the desire increases and what follows is the inevitable - the question "Do you have a condom?" and the subsequent brief interruption of the makeout session because one has to be fetched. Or not...
But sex without a condom - is that clever?
Condoms protect against pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.
Sleeping without a condom with someone you don't know or only know for a short time - risky!
Many people don't even notice the difference between a condom and no condom .
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1. How does sex feel without a condom?
Many would say that sex without a condom feels like an endorphin explosion in the body . (Better than chocolate and gelato - after a long time of abstinence.) Simply more real and natural, more pleasurable and more exciting. As if two people were uniting. Without a barrier. Somehow more intimate and somehow closer. And - to be completely honest - just wetter too . And yes, you can help with the topic of moisture, but sex without a condom means body fluids with body fluids and that actually feels pretty much as moist as it sounds. After all, you can feel EVERY twitch and throb .
Maybe the whole thing is just a matter of your head.
Because sex without a condom is known to be riskier than safe sex and some people are turned on by a certain amount of risk.
I'll come back to the risk that sex without a condom entails in a moment.
There are actually people who feel little or no difference between sex with and without a condom. The feeling is – like every person – individual and unique.
But the fit of the condom also plays a big role. Only a well-fitting condom can hardly be felt during sex . A condom that is too wide or narrow not only poses the risk that it could slip off. It just feels weird.
2. When is sex safe without a condom?
There are numerous ways and methods to protect yourself against an unwanted pregnancy . There are hormonal contraceptive methods, such as the pill or the hormonal coil, and natural ones, such as the copper coil or the diaphragm.
While the pill works for some without major problems, it also comes with many side effects, and many women who decide to go off the pill don't have an easy time of it at first. Acne, weight gain or loss, and so on.
But in general, all of these methods do not protect you from one thing:
Sexually transmitted diseases aka STIs .
And I'm not just talking about HIV. Syphilis, chlamydia, gonorrhea, etc. can also be transmitted through unprotected sexual intercourse.
Almost every second person becomes infected with a sexually transmitted disease AT LEAST once before the age of 25 - crazy, right?
Even if you've been in a monogamous relationship for years where neither of you has sex with other people, you can never be sure. Because there is also something like a yeast infection , which can be transmitted to your partner without a condom.
This can come from improper wiping after big business, antibiotics, too much hygiene (you read that right) or a generally weakened immune system. And fungal infections are not something to joke about either, let me tell you.
Even an uninvited guest, after sex without a condom - cystitis!
That's right, unprotected sex can actually increase the risk of a bladder infection (urinary tract infection). This is because bacteria that are normally found around the genital area or in the intestines can enter the urinary tract when germs enter the urethra during intercourse. This can lead to an infection of the bladder. Also absolutely not recommended!
3. Had sex without a condom?
If you've had unprotected sex because you just couldn't keep your hands off each other and it felt bad, here's what you can do now:
Emergency contraception (morning-after pill):
If you're concerned that pregnancy might be possible because you don't have either the pill or the IUD to back you up, the morning-after pill (emergency contraception) may be an option. This should be taken as soon as possible, ideally within 72 hours of unprotected sex. It is available without a prescription in most pharmacies. The faster you act, the more effective it is.
Visit to the gynecologist:
If you have concerns about STIs, it is advisable to get examined by a doctor. They may offer you tests to make sure you have not acquired any STIs. It's important to be honest about your sexual activity so the doctor can perform the proper tests. So tell us everything that is important! Don't hold back!
Regardless of the situation, it's always a good idea to protect yourself with regular contraception to prevent unwanted pregnancies and STIs. Condoms, hormonal contraceptives such as the pill, the contraceptive patch, the contraceptive ring or intrauterine contraceptives (e.g. coils) are some of the options.
If you have a partner, it's important to talk openly about sexual health and contraception. This will help plan the best course of action together and ensure both parties are protected. Ultimately, it's no fun for you or your partner if you don't feel well after sex without a condom. Not worth it, promise!
No matter the situation, it's important to take care of your physical and emotional health. If you're feeling worried or stressed, it's a good idea to seek support from friends, family, or a professional counselor.